How to move on from your child's/children's father aka your baby daddy.

Being a single mother is the most challenging and scariest thing I have ever experienced. The idea of raising children alone in this world with no help but still having to navigate, go to work, go to school, cook, clean, organize, pay bills, go to medical appointments, paying for childcare, teaching and trying to have a personal life is consuming.  Doing it all alone without the man who helped you create your beautiful little ones especially when he promised to always be there, hurts. The pain you feel is real, and the things that you do trying to make him feel your pain is even realer.  The reality is that everyday you look at your children you are reminded of the lying ass person he was and still continues to be.  But can you change a lying ass man? If you have a real talk with this man tell him the real deal will he change? The reality is you can't change him but you can heal and change you. Sometimes we feel that we can save a man and make him finally see the truth. When I was struggling with these same emotions what help me get through it was this prayer below.  There is some things we can change in our lives and other things we can not change, like our deadbeat baby daddies! We are grown ass adults ! Time is not waiting for us, before you know it if you keep on living you will be 60 years old! You will never be able to change your baby daddy lenses, he is where he is  in his life but you can change you and  what you focus on. Read this daily, you choose either mornings or evenings but read it.  

"God grant me the serenity

To accept the things I cannot change;

Courage to change the things I can;

And wisdom to know the difference..."

This will not change the fact that you are a single mother but it will help you accept your new reality. You can't change a grown ass man who do not want to provide for his own children or even if he decides to move on and put another woman before his own children.  The fact remains is that you don't have control over that so why subject yourself to emotional distress? Why give this man power over your mind and energy? Let me kick game to you for a hot second! Where your mind goes your energy is directed. Stop giving your precious mental  energy to a man who can't never be the man you want him to be. You don't have to prove how strong you are or even how weak you are to him but you can spend your time creating a positive life.  FIVE  THINGS YOU CAN DO NOW TO MOVE ON   1.Focus on you and your children. Create a positive life. Start to speak positivity into your life, start to focus on the positivity and start to create positive experiences into your life. 2. Be on the go with family, personal and business/ career goals. 3. Practice self care daily,  do something that will keep  you in a good place. 4. Surround yourself with positive women who are empowering and supportive. 5.Allow yourself to feel whatever hurt you feel and cry if needed but don't stay there to long! Don't give up,  just start over at number 1 and keep going!